Not sure how to sum this up in a TL;DR, so apologies in advance if it's a bit of a ramble.
My parents own a large home which sits in the middle of a parcel with 3 lots, where they have lived for 33 years.
Recently, they decided to break off one of the lots, use their equity to build a new home on it, and sell the home to my sister. The budget for the project is based on the amount of financing my sister qualified for. My parents will provide a 20% gift of equity downpayment, and are selling the home and property for what otherwise could have been sold for $100,000 – $120,000 more in the current market. My sister is a single mom with two children, and might never have been able to be a homeowner without this assistance.
My husband and I recently purchased our first home in the same town by the skin of our teeth. We could only afford 5% down, but felt strongly that it was time to own as rent prices in our area increase beyond mortgage payments.
We are happy in our new home, but my parents are apparently riddled with guilt over not helping us in a similar way and have presented us with two options. To me, it seems like either of the options would be a smart move. My husband is very principled and is vehemently against accepting any help from anyone.. I guess I am hoping for some perspective/advice/maybe validation from an investment standpoint.
Option 1: They use modest profits from the sale of my sister's home to build another new house on their third lot and sell that to us for the same price with the same gift of equity.
Option 2: They build the new house, move into that, and sell us the large one they currently live in for a below-market price with a gift of equity downpayment.
Either way, we wouldn't be neighbors forever, as they have another piece of property in a neighboring town where they will build a new home to retire in.
Additionally, we have made significant improvements/upgrades to our current home (updated electrical, new deck, master bathroom, etc.) so we stand to potentially sell for much more than we bought for, which would go towards either of the above two options. Meaning we would end up with a much nicer, more valuable home, in a more desirable location, for less financing than we currently have.
I feel like selling our current home and taking advantage of one or the other of these options is a no-brainer.
Am I off base, here? What would you do, and why?